This is not my story to telling. It is true. All I have done is present it. It was told to me this week by a friend. The Traditional Christmas Dinner Me and my mum don't always agree on food. This year though I was determined to get my way. I wanted a traditional Christmas dinner: turkey, stuffing, sprouts, roasties, parsnips and gravy, the lot.
I fell in love with Christmas dinner as a boy. I am Oldham born and bred but my first proper Christmas dinner was at school, and it was an eye opener. I wasn't supposed to have it, I was supposed to have the special food my classmates got jealous about.
As one of only a small group of Muslims in my class I had special school dinners. It was allegedly Halal and prepared separately to the other kids meals, this meant they thought I was getting something better than them. To even out the injustice I swapped with them, and that is how I came to love Christmas dinner.
My mum humours me, she'd just do Eid if she had her way, but I love a party and would do them all from Christmas to Divali if I could. Don't get me wrong, I love her cooking, but like many older people, she is stuck in her ways and only cooks what she's always cooked. I love all sorts of food and I've never had difficulty separating the religious aspects of our own faith from the need in us all to simply have a good time – I'll go to anyone's party!
So, this year it's Christmas Dinner at our house, and I'm in charge. Except all is not as simple as you might think. Take the Turkey for example. Have you ever tried to get a Halal Turkey?
It never occurred to me until now, that there are not many Muslim families who want to have a traditional Christmas dinner, so, as I soon found out I'd left it a bit late.
It's about a 120 mile round trip to Fleetwood, but three hours later a rock-solid 20lb frozen Turkey sat on our kitchen worktop after pulling in favours with a family friend who knows a Halal catering wholesaler just outside Blackpool. Looking at the Cyrillic script on the plastic wrapper, I wondered how far the thing had travelled to end up in our kitchen.
It would be touch and go whether it was defrosted in time but I peeled off the shrink wrap, and left it it on the draining board while I got on with buying veg from Oldham market. Even that was fraught with difficulty as the Muslim stallholders I knew looked askance as I bought Brussels Sprouts and Parsnips. Still, by Christmas Eve I was good and ready to stand my ground and keep mum out of the kitchen, while I prepared a traditional Christmas dinner for the five of us: mum, me, and my brothers Aswan, Ziggy and Iffy.
I didn't sleep much Christmas Eve, my mind whirled with the challenge to come, muttering to myself: “twenty minutes a pound, but don't forget the weight of the stuffing”. And that was another thing, the stuffing. We certainly weren't going to eat pork, so there was a problem. Thank goodness for Google I say; and sage, onion, breadcrumbs, rice, cranberry and other bits and pieces that went into the vegetarian stuffing recipe I found.
On Christmas Day morning I was down for breakfast before the others, eager to start. Besides I wanted to be sure the bird was fully thawed. But even in the dim morning light, with the kitchen roller-blind shut I could tell there was something not right. From the door I could the Turkey's skin had lost it's pimply look, if anything it looked smooth and glossy. Then there was the colour: it seemed to glow with an pinky – orange hue... wait a minute...
I flicked the light on taking in the familiar colours that glowed from our Turkey. The I bawled up the stairs - “Mother, what have you done?!”
She bundled herself downstairs full of explanations and exhortations as she tried to explain how my frozen turkey had ended up marinating in Tandoori spices in an old enamelled baby bath.
She had sabotaged my traditional Christmas Dinner. Wringing her hands she looked up at me pitifully, her eyes brimming:
“You know how tasteless their cooking is” she said by way of explanation, “and how can the meat stay moist if it's not marinated properly”
But she didn't reckon with the effect of seven years of sneaked school dinners, I remained determined and pressed on regardless . Four hours later we sat down to a traditional family meal. A Christmas dinner of Tandoori Roast Turkey and stuffing – with all the trimmings.
I think Mum secretly enjoyed it, though I don't think I'll ever convince her about sprouts. I guess we are both traditionalists in our own way, I don't know what the meal said about our culture or heritage, but I know, as we pulled our crackers and tried to explain the jokes to Mum, we were having a traditional family meal together.